The mind is the most advanced technology we have yet to figure out. One thing we do know is that the mind is programmable. Think Pavlov, Fraud, etc. The mind can be programmed. Consciously and unconsciously programmed. Without realizing it, all the habits you have and the reactions you have, are just programming. Everything around us has an effect on the “program” or mentality. Habits are just repetitive actions that were internalized as automated responses. That’s why it’s very important to monitor the things that you are internalizing or taking in whether that be orally, through auditory senses or visually etc. You are what you consume. When you watch tv or listen to music, you are consuming the messages/vibrations of the image/sounds. That’s why it’s important to watch things that are aligned to your vibrations, whatever that may be. The people around are effecting you too. Their vibrations, their mentalities, their beliefs, their energy, etc. Whether you believe in the term of “manifestation” in the spiritual sense, essentially what happens is when “manifest” is you put an intention/idea out into the universe. Your body subconsciously begins to choose the actions that will allow what you are putting out there into your physical reality. Example: Let’s say Joe has a fear of getting robbed. So Joe goes out of his way to try to avoid this but subconsciously he is bringing this closer to reality because his mind will put him in places where this is most likely to occur. So he will start taking the alley ways or night walks or something without even realizing it because he is so focused on his fears. If you allow these things to distract you, you will be distracted. Another Example: Jill is in need of some money. She is short on her light bill and is trying to find out how to get $20. She starts looking around for things she can sell, pawn, etc. She finds money somewhere random in her closet which seems like a coincidence but she was actively in search and looking for it, on the frequency to find it.
There’s a couple of different ways you can reprogram yourself. Now at first it might seem dumb and tedious but Rome was not built in a day. Give yourself time to adjust, heal, refocus, etc. One way to reprogram yourself is by Affirmations. Literally saying the things you want yourself to one day do/become. “I am great. I am happy. I am successful”, etc. Write them, say them, listen to them, internalize them. Give it the energy it deserves. You are doing this for you. This isn’t for anyone else and no one needs know you are doing this. Another thing to try is journaling. Write out what the person you are deep down is like. What do they behave like? How would they handle situations? Are the things you are doing currently in your reality congruent with the things the person you essentially wanting to be like is on the insides? I mean get real af with yourself. What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? What would you like to experience? What would you like to change? Are you hanging out with the right people? All these things matter. Then look at yourself in the mirror and gas yourself up. Give yourself some love and encouragement. Say the words you’ve been needing to hear to yourself and mean them! Smile! You are capable! You are successful! You are confident! Who cares if this feels stupid. They are not you and they are not in control of you. These things are true if you believe them and if you internalize them, your subconscious will follow suit. Do things to help you get to your goals one step at a time. The only thing you have is now so figure out what you can do within your control in your own reality and get to it.
Now one thing that’s important to note is that although I am healing in my self love journey, I’m fully aware that not everyone wants to be healed. Not everyone is ready. Everyone has their own path. You can’t heal someone who doesn’t want to be. Real healing is with one’s self and it’s very personal. You will disrupt other’s with your healing energy. You may trigger people and their insecurities. People may not be receptive of your positive energy and lash out at you. You might lose friends and family on the way. It’s wild but although misery loves company, misery hates little miss sunshine. Healing can be lonely but my advice is to keep shining and go where you are able to shine in peace. No one should be trying to bring you down. Be strong. Strength means you might cry when you’re alone at night but you pick yourself up everyday and you keep trying. Some days you might not get out of bed but on the inside you set that intention every morning that today will be the day you rise. The light in you will help ignite the light in those around you.
Most healing is done in the dark, alone. It is a life long process but if you commit to yourself and giving yourself the life you desire. The rewards are all yours because you are capable. Your dreams are attainable if you are willing to put in that work. Nothing worth having is done easily without a little work. Most of that work happens on the insides. Try to build some support and community around yourself. Give yourself a healthy outlet for your emotions. Find a way. You might have to be creative to find a solution. Learn to trust yourself and your intuition. Be fearless. Be smart. Make a plan. You got this!
-C Money, the Muse
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