Reciprocity

If you begin the self journey and you just stop at the part where you share that love you cultivated then you missed the point. You missed half of the message. Some people are programmed to assess what they can receive or acquire but at no point do they think about finding out what they have to offer. What do they have to contribute? I mean this in every sense. Contribute to the world, nature, life, loved ones, strangers, friends, self, etc. It’s okay to love yourself but if you don’t spread the love to connect with others you are really limiting yourself. Instead of looking at someone and asking yourself what you are getting from them, flip the script. What do you provide? Providing can be many things. It can be a smile to uplift a mood, some food to nourish a stomach, a roof to keep others warm, etc. Providing is not solely monetary. Money is a means. It’s an energy. It’s a vibration. It’s an exchange. It is taking the place of the manual labor you would take to acquire whatever it is and that is all subjective to the market and social construction. We assign its value. Without humans assigning it a value, it has no value. So what do you have to bring that’s of value for someone else? What can they learn from you? What have you knowledge of that you can teach to others? How do you reciprocate the energy that people are giving to you? The goal really should be equal give and take between each other. No one person sucking the other person dry of what ever they have to offer. We would refer to this as an energy vampire. Someone who just takes and takes and takes… It doesn’t necessarily have to be money, it can be energy. Have you ever hung out with someone and when you left them you could’ve slept for a week? It’s like the encounter with them completely drained your battery dry. Pay attention. Bet if you set/enforced your boundaries for them then they will scatter away from you like a roach. That shit for real. That’s why it’s important to be aware not only for them but of yourself. Are you draining the people you are interacting with? What did you contribute? Did you bring the good vibes?

Im at a point in my journey where I’ve come to realize that I was accepting of things before in terms of my relationships and was not being reciprocated. I’m no longer prioritizing the people who were never putting me first when it was my turn or showing up for me. Why would I continue to do that? It’s okay to be kind. And It’s also okay to have boundaries. Having boundaries is not mean and is a necessary skillset to acquire. People will take advantage of you. You don’t have to allow it. Find new friends. I’m never going to expend my energy on people who could never bother to show up for my birthdays or answer the phone whenever I needed support again. I don’t have that to do. You feel free to do what you want but when you start to value yourself and your time… You realize that it’s important to surround yourself with people who concur with who you are. You don’t want to spend most of your time not being valued, respected, loved, understood, or supported. Find your tribe. They are out there somewhere. If you resonant with me and are part of my soul group, welcome tribe! Hope to see you in the real world one day! If not, it’s all love and I hope you find your people soon!

-C Money, the Muse