You are who you hang out with… So hope you are being choosey! It’s important to evaluate the friend group because you will find that you adopt the behaviors and mannerisms of those around you. For me, once I really committed to my healing journey, I found that the people I was around before were kinda toxic. I noticed there was some negative self talk, no one ever showed up for me/answered the phone when I needed them and quite frankly, I just was not getting the level of friendship back that I was giving. So I put up some boundaries and kept it pushing. I want to be valued by the friends who love me just as I value them, so I knew it was time to find people on my same wavelength.
I don’t have time to explain what I mean every time I say something. Like I said what I said. I meant what I said. I don’t need to put some underlying meaning in my words. That’s how I feel. I hate the phrase, “I think what you’re trying to say..” Ummm like I said what I was trying to say. People are weird for that. Like if I always have to defend or explain what I’m saying, I do not want to hang out. No more frenemies. It’s just going to be super frustrating for me and I’m not a fan. I’m going to pass. You are not a bad person for wanting something different. I had to realize that me trying to spare others feelings was only doing a disservice to me. That and projection is a mf. When I began listening to people and realizing that 9/10 they were talking about themselves… Wow that was a real game changer. It’s like you can finally filter out what they are really saying and that their real issues was themselves and not you. I definitely sympathize with them but in terms of quality of people I want to hang out with… immediately no. I have so many things I’d like to do…. So many collaborative ideas I’d like to create so I will be patient because I know that eventually things always have a way of working out. Until then, I’d rather walk around dolo. I don’t have time to waste. Choosing quality over quantity.
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