One of the hardest things for me to do is forgive. Forgive and forget. I know that’s what we are supposed to do but that doesn’t make it easy. Walking around with anger and grudges is like carrying around a baby elephant on your back. There will be a breaking point for you and all you are doing is building a mountain of negativity that will one day explode. Unfortunately you never know when that will be and who will be the undeserved target of the combinations of all your frustrations. So how do we figure out how to fix this?
There are many different things we can do to relieve the stress and figure out how to forgive others. Most of forgiving is mental. You have to make the decision to forgive. That is the hardest part. Once you have made the active choice to forgive someone the actions you take after that will help you cope. The process of forgiveness doesn’t have a timeline. It may take you an entire lifetime to forgive someone. Life is short though so carrying around unnecessary burdens will only hinder you from enjoying the good parts of life for as long as you have air in your lungs.
Some people do not know the repercussions of their actions on others but that is not your fault/problem. Focusing on their inability to respect you is a waste of time. You can’t control other people. Focus your efforts on the things that are in your power and make them enjoyable. Forgive those who trespass against you and live your life to the fullest. I believe in you. All of you. I also forgive you. I forgive you and everyone who has ever done me any wrong. Let’s all try to let go of the old shit and live in the present with a better future in mind.