Advice for Advisors

Everyone has their own way of doing things. Even though we can see those individuals making mistakes, nothing we can say will change their resolve. You can’t save everyone. Some people can learn from observing others make mistakes but then some people just need to live them to realize the consequences of their actions. So what can we do as the loved ones? There’s no sense beating a dead horse with your speeches and charts of why what they’re doing is not the best path. Sometimes the only thing to do is be supportive and be there for them when they fall down. They don’t need you gloating away in their faces. They know you were telling them truths out of love but like I said before, some people just need to live their mistakes. Doesn’t matter what age they are.

Then on the flip side, not everyone’s advice is applicable. People draw on the experiences they have been through or seen and not every situation or persons’ life is similar. I believe strongly in the truths that everyone’s life is different and people are on different paths. What may be right for you may not work for another. As I move forward in this unknown transitional period of my life, I am getting advice from everyone under the sun. They want to know what my plans are, how will I figure it out and am I crazy for making such a drastic change, etc. People are voicing so many concerns about my life and want me to take their advice and travel their paths. If I were to do that, I would hate my life because it wouldn’t be mine. I’d be living the life they have or wanted. I keep telling them all, I have my own path and I intend on following it.

So although it’s hard to sit by and watch someone you love doing what you think is a mistake, after you have voiced your opinions, it’s up to them whether or not they want to follow it. This of course does not apply to drugs or harmful activities.


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